Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

So recently I started reading a book called The Art of Manliness by Brett McKay and his wife Kate McKay. I am almost finished with the book but do I gotta say that it is a really good book. The book basically teaches men how to behave like men in the public sphere, how to dress for certain occasions, how to  do things that gentlemen used to do back in the good old days like shave with a straight razor. How to treat the ladies, asking them on a date with flowers, how to be an awesome dad. It's a great book and I recommend all young men read this book if you want a happy girlfriend! :) 

             

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When I was reading it also talked about chivalry, like opening a door for a young lady, making sure that if a girl is standing up when a guy is sitting down, to give up his seat until the young lady has sat. Like the subtitle of the book states, to give class skills and manners to the modern man that maybe does not practice these anymore. We do not see old school chivalry in our days anymore because I feel that we have become a society that is purely individualistic. In these days however, families were more happy than ever and girls were treated with respect and both men and women treated themselves with respect. We look at ourselves now, we treat each other like a commodity rather than a human being. We have both girls and boys not having class nor etiquette because they do not care. I really wished that I could live in post World War  2 America or basically when men could treat women with respect. 

I know that due to today's progressive attitude that women are now independent and do not need  a man to open their door for them or let them sit down first, could make it very difficult for a young man trying to be chivalrous. So with that being said, I know it is hard for us young men to start breaking our individualistic habits and start being more chivalrous but in the long run, your girlfriend and future wife will treat you with more respect and love you a lot more.

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Honestly, if you are a girl reading this blog, how could you not like to be treated with dignity and respect? How could you not like to be coated with a sweater when it's cold outside and you have no jacket? How could you not like your door to be opened for you? How could you not like someone who has classy style and behaves like a gentlemen?

Either way, the book is really good and has images so it's good for visual learners! It's like 15 bucks on Amazon but a really good read! Alright gentlemen, go out and be men today!

Why I Love Free Speech

Free Speech in College 

I believe in Free speech.

I believe that the first amendment of the United States Constitution is still relevant today regardless of what is being said. It is a freedom that many people in their countries throughout the world wished they had so they could criticize their government and criticize ideas that probably do not make sense. 

Typically, you would think that in the most prestigious universities that Free Speech would be protected and upheld, but that is usually not the case and it is a sad thing. 

Now attending CSU Stanislaus for two months already, I could not help but notice that on few campus classrooms that there are "safe spaces." To me, it does not make sense because we are adults in colleges and there are safe spaces? For what exactly? 

Sometimes people need safe spaces so they will not have to hear words that are offensive and/or controversial, sometimes to the persons beliefs, religion, and political party affiliation. My reaction to this is, ARE YOU 10 YEARS OLD? Do you really need a safe space so words will not hurt your fragile mind? ARE WE IN FREAKING CHILD DAYCARE? No, we are in college and this is the place where an individual is supposed to talk about ideas and controversies. 

The sad thing in college campuses is also that many students and faculty will censor someone who speaks against political correctness or has an opposing point of view from the majority of students. Literally, some schools have free speech zones because "Words Hurt" acting like college babies. 

For example, If I were to speak out against Black Lives Matter, Abortion, or Same Sex Marriage in the school grounds, the Student Government and the School would not give me a platform to discuss these issues and would censor my speech and go talk about it elsewhere. It is a sad reality that even prestigious institutions like Harvard have free speech limitations.

Of course I understand where there should be limitations like at a funeral or a ceremony and protesting but man, come on. We are in college and we should have the most free speech. I love criticizing and talking about bad ideas in public, but to silence someone because they have an opposing point of view? That's tyranny lol. 

Here, I'll leave a few links about free speech and limitations in college:

Respect

Respect 

One of few things in life that I really dislike about millennials in this generation is that we lack respect. We lack respect in a few aspects of life for example, we do not have respect for ourselves, we do not respect elders, and we do not respect our parents.

                                   

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When we were younger, we were most likely to respect our parents and ourselves and be on the look out for them. As we grow older, our hormones are all over the place and some of us can get ticked off by our parents telling us to do simple chores like doing the dishes or vacuuming. I understand that sometimes we get lazy and do not want to do it, but that gives us no right and an excuse to scream and get mad at our parents. First of all, our parents look out for us by feeding us, giving us clothes, and a place to sleep. Even if they don't provide 2 of those three things, that still gives us no right to disrespect them and belittle them. They do not deserve that attitude. They shed blood, tears, and endured pain that we may have caused them. I bet that when we would grow up, we do not want our children to treat us like that. We only have our parents for a few decades and then they are gone. Let's not leave on a bad note and let's ask them for forgiveness and move on and have respect for them. It's something that is not taught anymore and sometimes the parents don't do anything about a child's behavior. We are not entitled to anything but are in debt with our parents because they took care of us first and loved us first. I hope that with this short blog, we can change the way young people treat their parents because it's lack of respect and completely selfish. Don't be that college student lol. 

Man of your Word

 Man of your Word 

Let's take the phrase, "I love you". If I were to ask young people if when they say that phrase, if they actually mean it. I would assume that I would get a 50% response of yes, and a 50% response of no. Why have we demeaned our own words? In other words, why do our words not mean anything to us? 

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People who are married know that communication is a vital trait to have when one wants to have a successful marriages. Friendships know that through communication, honesty is also a really important trait to have to have a successful marriage. Why is it though, that when we say we are going to do something, we do not put much thought into it and maybe even not do it in general? Even when it came out of our very own mouths? For example, let's say a friend tells me that he will meet me at Jack in the Box at 7pm. I get there at 6:30pm being really early, and it is 7:20 and my friend has not shown up. Then at 7:30 he texts me that he will not be able to make it after all. How will that make me feel? It would make me feel bad right? It would make me say  "What the heck?" right? It's not right. Don't be that person that is not a man of your word. Don't be that person who says they are going to do something and then not do it after all. First of all, it makes you look like a complete jerk, and ruins your credibility in future events. Now the next time my friend tells me to meet me at McDonald's, I am probably going to make up an excuse not to go unless he gains my trust. If you don't want people to do it to you, don't do it to them. It is better to say no and be direct than to leave a friend hanging. Be a legitimate friend and most of all be honest. If you say you are going to do something, follow through with your word and your actions by doing what you said you would do. Believe me, people will trust you more and your friendship and relationship will mean that much more when someone is a man of their word. 

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"Let your yes be a yes, and your no be a no..." - Matthew 5:37

After next week, I will not have anything else to talk about, so are there any suggestions on what I should write about? Or my opinions on a subject? I know no one really cares lol, I just want something to write about since it is a blog. Thanks!

Dominion Over Your Situation

The Struggle for Life

I went to Monterrey this past weekend for my mother's birthday. I gotta say that Monterrey is Super Beautiful and there is nothing like it. I feel that it is so underrated and that it does not receive the credit it deserves.

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One night as we were walking by the ocean in Monterrey Municipal Beach, I was walking with my family and all of a sudden we spot a shiny substance in the sand. We turn on our phone flashlights and before us is a sea lion. We said "Oh my gosh, that is so cool!" Then we realized that it was injured. It ha bite marks all over the back side of its body. A closer look, it's back flippers were shattered. The Sea lion was just moving itself through its front flippers. It was really sad to see the animal struggle just to move around. We knew it was going to die because the city was not going to get there until the next morning and its back fins were already shattered. It would be too late already. Also, it was so nice, it would not do anything if it was touched and had tears in its eyes. The sea lion looked like a puppy to me.

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I started contemplating on the fact that every living creature has to struggle in order to survive. In the animal kingdom, it's an animal eats animal. Plankton are eaten by fish, fish are eaten by seals, seals are eaten by sharks and so on. However, with humans it is much different. In our own society today we have to work and give up of our time in order to survive. Nothing in this world is free because if something is given to an individual, it comes at the price of someone else's labor. We all want to be able to be rich and live in a mansion by the ocean side but that is not simply the case. I believe that if an individual works hard and creates something innovative like the desktop computer or a smartphone, you will get there. Everything is has to be earned. That is our struggle of life. 

Don't be that college student is who feels that you are entitled to everything, because you have to give this world a reason to care about you. We have dominion over our struggles.If you are struggling with finances, instead of buying candy or junk food, save it up and get yourself something nice. Or Get another job and negotiate your wage. If you are having family problems, you have dominion over your situation. Your very own words can speak life into someone, or speak death into someone. The seal did not get to live another day, but you can live to see another day today and get up off the ground, take off the dust of your feet and move on. Let's be adults now that we are college students. Your life is in your hands. Struggle so you can grow. Change your situation and you will see how much dominion you have over your situations. Have a good Monday!